Dear Diary: Entry 20; How Can I Be a Bigger Person?

This life is different in the perspective of each one of us. We all have fair share of experiences. We are in this crusade and we all are carrying a cross.

Pain and suffering, we are all familiar with it. We face different challenges and adversity. Some battles are hidden and never shared to the world. We are in this quest within ourselves alone. Conquering our own fears and flaws.

Pain changes us. Some changes us for the better and some makes us worst. Sometimes, we used our pain to cause harm to others and justify our misdeeds.

But, what is really wrong and who are we to judge the sufferings of other people when we are not the one who experienced it in the first place?

Are we allowed to use our pain to cause pain to other people because we are in pain?

It is not easy to choose what is good because it requires peace and forgiveness.

We find it difficult to let go our pain because somehow it all makes us feel alive. After all, pain is part of our life. Yes, pain is a drive that can motivates us to rise and be the bigger person or it can drown us and let the ocean of hate engulf us whole.

We all experience pain to different extent and we all have different pain tolerance. But our tolerance must not discriminate us from being strong and weak.

We have no idea how other people try and do their best just to deal with their sufferings. What we see is only the tip of an iceberg compare to the totality of their struggles.

I realized that we actually don’t fully understand the sufferings of other people despite of our own personal experiences.

Because each sufferings are unique and personal. We are being of different story and inspirations. We are all being that strive to be the best version of ourselves. It just happen that some of us are stuck because we became busy aiming to grow that we forgot how to live our lives at the moment. Some of us are stuck because we are trying to redeem our past version of ourselves.

I think it is best to let go everything.

Let us surrender and let life flow in our very being.

Allow ourselves to believe and have faith in God.

This life is full of difficulties but we all aim to be the bigger person no matter how difficult our own circumstances.

I’m aware that I don’t understand everything and I’m far from becoming the bigger version of myself but I’m striving to be one without forgetting how to live at present.

Yes, I can’t fully understand other people’s suffering. I can’t fully emphatize but I can respect whatever they feel and I respect their uniqueness.

I just hope to give them small flicker of light. I want to help others as I aspire to be the bigger version of myself.

I’m grateful for this life. I’m grateful for my sense of self. I’m grateful for everything.

I think, being grateful is my first step on being the bigger person.

Published by She Writes

She's a dreamer. Hopes to be lost in oblivion but the truth is, she just wants to be seen and heard. In quest within and lover of life. This, too, shall pass so I will keep going ; I still don't know. I'll rest for the mean time.

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